What conflicts of values are and how to resolve them

Values make their way through our thoughts, our emotions, our behaviours, and our choices to express these qualities. Sometimes, however, our values can be in conflict, creating a lot of inner chaos, both emotional and mental, which affects our well-being and our interactions with others.

To better understand the concept of “conflicts of values”, let’s take the example of an entrepreneur who has an active conflict between the values “Freedom” and “Responsibility”.

Let’s pretend that the entrepreneur, in this moment of life, feels the strong desire for “Freedom”. They can’t stand it anymore, they are very tired, they always have complicated situations to manage, they are never serene. The twenty years of hard work to create and consolidate their own company have been very demanding. And it is thanks to the value “Responsibility” that they succeeded in their challenges, it was them who took command of choices, diligently guiding them to success. “Responsibility” today finds it hard to let go of control and therefore maintains the same behaviours without leaving room for expression for “Freedom”.

“Freedom” is felt more and more in thoughts that echo with phrases such as “I’m tired, I give up, why should I do it” trying to sabotage “Responsibility”. Without being aware of it, when there is a conflict of values, we enter a duel where unfortunately no one will win if we don’t intervene, indeed they will all pay a high price in terms of wasted time, energy, and thoughts. If the entrepreneur does not intervene to create a balance between “Responsibility” and “Freedom” they will inevitably begin to feel more and more frustration, dissatisfaction, and malaise in general.

In some cases, when people experience conflicts of important values, they risk developing depressive personalities, or burn-out or unrelated and unclear, often chronic symptoms. So, these aspects of the inner life shouldn’t be underestimated or ignored, they should instead be managed consciously.

Each of us knows themselves, and how difficult it is to change something about themselves: their habits, thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. With the help of Quantasia’s Life and Business Coaching, you will be able to understand all these dynamics and learn to take back the helm of your life. Using specific techniques and strategies, you will be able to restore balance both in your emotions, in your thoughts and behaviours.

The importance of values in the coaching process

Values are a fundamental part within a path of personal growth and coaching since when we understand them, we create the “empowerment”.

Through a process of listening to the story of the person’s current experience, the Coach identifies the areas in which the person can act to improve or change something in their life. As a person begins to clarify within themselves, they can begin to take steps to restore order and balance.

When a person comes into full contact with the inner values, they create a relationship with the most beautiful parts of themselves.